octal
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Yeah, I haven't been around for a while. I like the changes!
Anyways, on to the advice I need. So I'm dating this girl for the past 2 years. She's really nice but is also really dependent. She's living at my mother's right now because she doesn't "feel free" living with her parents (mind you, I'm 22 and she's 19). That and she's been getting annoying lately. She's only scheduled for 8 hours a week at her job and won't get another one because she "likes it there". She cut her wrists a few months back when she was living on her own because she was depressed and is still acting depressed by never leaving the house for anything. Basically I can't motivate her to do anything because she's lazy and depressed (and won't seek counseling because she thinks she's fine).
On to the problem here. I've been working for Sam's Club (in the bakery
)for the past 3 years. A coworker from last summer came back to work from the Sam's in St. Cloud and brought her friend who worked up there too. The "new girl" works with me and the other's a decorator. So anyways, this new girl has been working with me for the past 3 weeks and has developed a crush on me. She told me today and I told her that she's getting me to think about her a lot as well (that is, she's floating around amid my thoughs of trying to fix the problem with my girlfriend). She's in an abusive relationship and I've talked to her about leaving the guy, but she can't and tells me that she basically needs a rebound right away. Now I'm trying to not let this stuff influence my thoughts but I'm wondering what people think about this. Since I value my ethics system I can't end it with my girlfriend and date this other girl for so many reasons (it wouldn't be fair to my girlfriend, and dating rebounds doesn't sound like a wise choice, for starters).
I've thought for a while about switching my profession to something a little more in the realm of my degree program, so I'm considering this to be a solution to a few different problems. As it stands I'm just planning on talking with the girl, telling her that it would just be a bad idea in general. So what does everyone else think?
Anyways, on to the advice I need. So I'm dating this girl for the past 2 years. She's really nice but is also really dependent. She's living at my mother's right now because she doesn't "feel free" living with her parents (mind you, I'm 22 and she's 19). That and she's been getting annoying lately. She's only scheduled for 8 hours a week at her job and won't get another one because she "likes it there". She cut her wrists a few months back when she was living on her own because she was depressed and is still acting depressed by never leaving the house for anything. Basically I can't motivate her to do anything because she's lazy and depressed (and won't seek counseling because she thinks she's fine).
On to the problem here. I've been working for Sam's Club (in the bakery
)for the past 3 years. A coworker from last summer came back to work from the Sam's in St. Cloud and brought her friend who worked up there too. The "new girl" works with me and the other's a decorator. So anyways, this new girl has been working with me for the past 3 weeks and has developed a crush on me. She told me today and I told her that she's getting me to think about her a lot as well (that is, she's floating around amid my thoughs of trying to fix the problem with my girlfriend). She's in an abusive relationship and I've talked to her about leaving the guy, but she can't and tells me that she basically needs a rebound right away. Now I'm trying to not let this stuff influence my thoughts but I'm wondering what people think about this. Since I value my ethics system I can't end it with my girlfriend and date this other girl for so many reasons (it wouldn't be fair to my girlfriend, and dating rebounds doesn't sound like a wise choice, for starters). I've thought for a while about switching my profession to something a little more in the realm of my degree program, so I'm considering this to be a solution to a few different problems. As it stands I'm just planning on talking with the girl, telling her that it would just be a bad idea in general. So what does everyone else think?
